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Mama M's

 

Thu
30
Apr

Mama M: Taken for Granted

Dear Mama M,

What do I do if I have a friend who I feel is often taking me for granted? I don’t want to confront her because I don’t want to hurt her feelings, and I don’t want to make a big deal out of it or risk losing the friendship. Maybe I am wrong for feeling this way, but it does make me feel bad much of the time, and I don’t really know what to do. Any advice?

Sincerely, Totally Taken for Granted

 

Dear Totally Taken for Granted (TTfG-not to be confused with TGIF),

I am so very glad that you asked!! Believe it or not, I have given this topic a lot of thought. Sometimes friends have different ways of looking at things and sometimes friends are frenemies.  What does your heart tell you about this friend?  If they are full of crap, self-centered, and un-loving then perhaps it is time to ease on down the road. But, if you feel like there is a chance to learn and grow here then you are very lucky sugar.

Wed
15
Apr

Mama M: Living A Lie

Dear Mama M,

There’s all this talk about how the biomedical workforce is shifting, and there are not enough academic jobs to accommodate all the PhD students currently being trained. PIs, however, are not traditionally supportive of students who want “alternative careers,” partly because they don’t know how to support our career development in these directions, and they don’t want these pursuits to take time away from lab. I don’t even want to do research after I graduate, but I’m afraid to tell my thesis committee. On the one hand, I want to tell them because I don’t want to waste my time in pursuit of high-profile publications that I don’t need. But what if this changes how they view me, and they don’t want to waste their time guiding a student who doesn’t want to do research?

- Living a Lie

Thu
05
Mar

Mama M: First-generation medical student struggles in effort to understand program’s hidden curriculum

Navigating the fast pace of med school (illustration by Joe Bien- all rights reserved)

Dear Mama M, 

As I have navigated through medical school, I have witnessed that some know the “unspoken secrets” of excelling in medical school more than others.     

As a first-generation college—and now medical—student, I sometimes find that I do not know the hidden curriculum behind professional schools. 

What is your advice on how to excel during professional school as someone who might not come from the pomp and glamour of an educated family and the breeding for academia that it seems to provide?

—StrivingforExcellence

 

    Dearest Striving,

Tue
03
Feb

Mama M: How Do I Know

Art credit: Joe B

Dear Mama M,

I don't know why, but I keep dating people who "aren't good for me."

That's what my friends and family tell me. I don't even know really what they mean, but I am starting to wonder about it as I get older. In general, I just know we are attracted to be together a lot, and we enjoy each other's company most of the time. What should I be asking myself, to know if I am choosing the right person to date, and even maybe to commit to, someday?

Sincerely,

How Do I Know

 

Dear “How,”

Tue
20
Jan

Mama M: Hopeless and Harried

Dear Mama M,

I am early into my third year med-school clinical rotations now, and I am embarrassed to say that I am still so much more than overwhelmed. There is so much to know, and it is not all just “medicine.” That’s hard enough, but no one really prepared us for the rest of “real life” getting things done on the wards: I am always getting lost in the hospital. There are always new forms for everything you order. I am supposed to text-page certain people and numeric-page others. Some forms you have to hand-carry to radiology or the lab, others you have to get in by 11 a.m. or else forget about it. Some consults that I call can be very rude and intimidating and make me feel terrible for my ignorance.

Wed
19
Nov

Mama M: Living a Lie

 

Dear Mama M,

There's all this talk about how the biomedical workforce is shifting, and there are not enough academic jobs to accommodate all the Ph.D. students currently being trained. PIs, however, are not traditionally supportive of students who want "alternative careers," partly because they don't know how  to support our career development in these directions, and they don't want  these pursuits to take time away from lab. I don't even want to do research  after I graduate, but I'm afraid to tell my thesis committee. On the one  hand, I want to tell them because I don't want to waste my time in pursuit  of high-profile publications that I don't need. But what if this changes how they view me, and they don't want to waste their time guiding a student who doesn't want to do research?
—Living a Lie

 

Dear Living Liar,

Tue
21
Oct

Mama M: Torn Between Two Worlds

Dear Mama M,

I shouldn't admit this, but I started medical school mainly because I wasn't sure what else to do. What I really wanted was to be a writer, but I knew it was hard and impractical, and I figured I could just do it on the side while making a living as a physician.

I've been doing a bit of freelance and having some success. It's getting harder and harder to convince myself to stick with medicine in light of that.

What do you think? Should I stay or should I go?

 - Torn Between Two Worlds

 

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Dearest Torn

Thu
20
Feb

Mama M.: Struggling with Self-Confidence

Dear Mama M.,

I am a student in the School of Nursing. I guess I don’t have a lot of self-confidence in general, but I know I am in the right place. The thing that I don’t understand is how other people seem so much more confident than me, especially the medical students with whom we occasionally share teaching sessions. It seems like they are so much more confident, and that they might even feel superior to nursing students. Or is it that I feel inferior to them?

It’s hard enough feeling OK about myself, I don’t need others to make me feel “less than.” Is my whole career as a nurse going to make me feel inferior to doctors? What am I getting myself into?

Inferiorly yours,
Less Than

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Dear Less Than,